Hi Czm Guess what? It is done! 3:00 a.m., but I finished. I am afraid to read it now...who knows what I was writing those last few hours?
Anyway, I just wanted to wish you a happy Friday, and of course a fabulous weekend.
As for the stuff we were talking about before the thread locked... hang in there. As Mer said, you will just know when/if the time is right. If my control-freak self can handle the way my sitch went, well, anyone can get through this!
Keep the information flowing...I'm all ears (well not really that would be very unattractive and elfish!)
E, anyone who can make me laugh out loud after the day I had is more than welcome on this thread.
Czm, I just did miserable on a quiz. That has never happened to me before. I am the girl who gets every single point. Not this time. I think that God is trying to beat that controlfreakishness outta me, once and for all. I failed a test, the world didn't end. Hmmm. Lesson anyone?
P.S. The screenname CMNM ("Crazy Maker No More") is wearing on me. Call me Pam. I'll change it back at some point.
Oh, and Meredith will be back on Monday. She had some lame excuse about some romantic weekend with her husband. Whatever.
When you and H seperated,(I believe he physically moved out , didn't he?), was he and angry a$$ when the finances were being settled?
Our seperation was March 1/07 and as in my sig. he's moving in 3 weeks.
The finances are really ruffling his feathers.
I mean really, who goes out and buys a house until they know what their finances are???? MLCer duhhhh.... pretty sure of himself
I thought his moods made me crazy before...hmmm now he's just a ranting alien!
me--"Yes, dear I know things will be tough for you." "Yes dear I know you don't want to screw me." "Yes dear I'm tring to do this quickly," "yes dear," "yes dear" blah!!!!!!!!
E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
E, Can't help you too much with this one. My H (and yes, he's been in his own apt. for almost 2.5 years now) did go through a time where he complained about his lack of money, but I think that it was a blow to his ego when my family members started asking me if I needed money, so he stopped. I rarely ask for anything from him; I would rather go without than ask. I'm pretty low maintainence and the odd kind of girl who hates to shop, so I don't really go through a lot of money anyway.
When we went to mediation he actually willingly gave me more than his lawyer suggested.
So, I've been pretty lucky.
You're doing the right thing..."I know things will be tough for you," etc.
Yes this wonderful LACK OF MONEY- yet they have enough to party, go on short weekends away. BUT they are always loomy gloomy sad..at least around us.
So victory day today. Strong - H and I communicated so well that it was "Wierd". We even high fived that he didn't have to BS his way through Valentines day cause he and ow were "outs" that day. OF course they are on again. UGH!!
I am ok ... today hasn't been the eventful day that I expected. I hate weekends "Alone" by my C made a good point today. I FEEL alone...but I really am not. Its those dang FEELIGNS AGAIN!
Pam -Meredith is on a romantic weekend...?? oh my oh my the stories we will hear!!
Romance? Hmmmmm been awhile.. ok ok no sulking on this thread. NOTHING abou thtem all about me me me (oh yes and you you you.) BUT NOTHING about them them them.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
blah!!!!!!!!