How do they look themselves in the mirror 4?

[SirPrizeMe]

Treese, hang in there. You're hurt, but he's not thinking of you. I worked hard to stop taking personally, the stuff my wife does and says.

She's filed for divorce, she blames literally everything on me, and now she is attempting to take the kids away from me. Forever. It is unspeakably terrible, what she is doing to our family. And the same is true for you. It's horrible.

In my wife's case, in her heart she really believes she is blameless somehow, and she really believes I am to blame for every problem she has, she believes I am hiding money from her, she believes that I am unfaithful to her, and I have been for a long time; she believes I want to take the kids from her. It is crazy kooky. I go down the list and without fail, all the crimes she accuses me of are things she has done to me, but none of them are things I have ever done to her.

But I look at it as a disease. If they had cancer and couldn't get out of bed, would I take it personally? If she were in a car accident and lost mobility and I had to push her around in a wheelchair, would I take it personally? Probably not. I sure hope not. I look at her current condition as the same.

Is this just a protective stance by me? Am I only pretending she is not evil, to protect my own feelings for her? I don't know for sure. I just cannot imagine how she could turn from my partner and wife to someone so aggressively antagonistic toward me, without some sort of mental event, something throwing a wrench into her brain or heart. So I think it is a disease. And I don't take it personally.