Sara - 10% is great! The majority of the those who want out won't even come close to saying there's a chance at all (even if there is, they won't tell the spouse that).
You don't need to act happy about his decision, but you do need to validate him. I'm sorry you feel that way kind of things. Don't argue with him, that tells him that you don't care about his feelings, which he's entitled to even if you don't think he "should" feel that way.
Have you read Divorce Remedy yet? That should help you a lot.
The very first things I'd work on are taking good care of yourself (it's easy to "forget" this when you're hurting so much), and getting control of your emotions. If he changes his mind it will be because he sees a new, improved, strong, confident, capable woman who he is attracted to. So you've got to be that person. And coincidentally enough, that's good for YOU too, no matter what happens.
What 180s can you do? What do you "always" do and it would really surprise him (and be a positive for you) if you did it differently??
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
