What is he trying to say?

[Where is Hope?]

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!! This is all really good stuff and I'm sorry I used two threads! I didn't mean to confuse...I'm just not used to doing this. I was on a step-mom website for years and they've still been there for me but it's organized differently.

YES, the kids are truly the issue. But he doesn't acknowledge that. His oldest son molested his half-sister at the BM's house 5 years ago. He has a lot of emotional intimacy with him that I didn't understand until going through this process. Now the younger two boys are using drugs and failing school. This has only happened AFTER I left the home. I towed the line with them because I love and care for them! But it was a constant fight between me and my H.