Consider DBing a time for yourself to learn about yourself, your Marriage and what went wrong?
DBing is something you do for yourself, and by yourself.
Piecing is like the bootcamp, where you take everything you have learned during the time you were separated and now you put it into practice.
Piecing isn't something you do by yourself, it is somethng you have to do with two people who have the same goals to reconcile the Marriage.
You have to relearn how to live with this person again. You have to learn how to compromise. You have to set your boundaries. You have to learn how to trust this person all over again. You have to leave the past in the past.
And above all you have to learn how to forgive EVERYTHING!
Piecing in a way is harder then the MLCBS.
And in some ways it is easier.
I guess it is different for everyone, I can only speak from experience.
I love it that my Beloved is home, but it has been hard.
There are no happily ever afters, there is just hard work and taking it all day by day.
We pieced for 6 months long distance.
He has been home for 10 months and now it is startig to get better and I am happier.
14 months of piecing is a long time to finally be in a good place.
Be careful what you wish for, you might just get it!!!
Take things slowly.
There is no need to rush anything.
Have your goals and boundaries set in place before he moves back home, it will save you alot of heartache.
And if all else fails, don't forget to breathe!!!!!
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
