I am so confused, not sure what hand I am playing

[Snow White]

you are right, when I leave it alone we get along wonderful, better than ever, but as soon as I snoop, I find that although I thought things were great they are still contacting one another. If I didn't snoop I would think things were good and I guess maybe they would actually get that way eventually but then how do I know whether or not we are in an R if I cannot confirm her presence? I can actually say that although I find out things a few days in advance for the most part anything that i see I would see anyways, the phone bills come to me, the credit card bills come to me, I just see them a few days earlier when I look online.