CONTACTING OW/OW'S HUSBAND

[kikidee]

Thank you for the thoughts ediemarie. All of what you say makes sense and some is actually beginning to sink in. I've read the ideas over and over here and elsewhere and it seems that the only people who have been successful in turning things around and getting to a more peaceful place have been those who have turned the focus away from the negative (read: H and/or OW) and towards to positive. I am very much on the fence about revealing some truths. If there is no advance in my H being honest with me, I feel as though I must show HIM something that will force him to admit what's going on. The only way for any healing to begin is if he is truthful. I am getting further and further away from being able to forgive. I hate to say that out loud. I didn't think I'd ever feel that way about the man I love. I keep thinking that from where things stand now, I don't think it can get any worse - so why not blow things up?

Again - I am flip-flopping all over the place and I think at this point the best thing to do would be nothing.

Still so confused.