Ditto Rob and Pamar, and good for you on the detaching and not confronting your H when you were so angry. He's doing things that are impacting D3 and your future financial stability. What can you do to lesson the effects this has on ya'll? Is it time to look at your financial arrangement? Instead of relying on him to pay daycare, can you arrange for him to give you a certain amount out of each check up front so you can pay your bills? I so understand what you're going through with this. J and I had some problems with his crazy spending. The only way I could get him to contribute consistently was to have him transfer money to my account on payday. I calculated what he'd have to pay for child support and he gave me that amount plus a portion of the mortgage, utilities and food. Then I didn't have to worry (so much) about his spending and when he ran out, he had to stop until payday. It made things easier on me and the kids because he had to pay to support himself and his kids before he could play. He wasn't happy and griped about it, but I had to stand firm on this... he either contributed his share or was free to find a place to live and let a judge decide what was fair.
It's sad that your D3 had to go to your parents because of your H's probs. Again, you were the responsible one and he didn't have to face the consequences of his actions.
