It is interesting (in a dark and twisted sort of way) how they perceive things. I think there is some deep seated need to believe that wahtever they find, it will make them happy. The problem with that theory is where ever you go, there you are. Unless and until they do some work on themselves, I don't see happiness in their immediate futures.
I like Nora Jones and I hope it isn't too late. It's the saying cool and calm part that can be so hard, but then I'm preaching to the choir here.
