It's hard to know what he was thinking but I'm guessing he wasn't prepared to discuss the bills and he didn't want to give you the opportunity to bring up that conversation.
His purpose was to give you a hand with the dog knowing that you are not feeling well and that was something he didn't have to do.
So true. The next morning, I woke up at 5:30am to the phone ringing. He must have tried a few times. I think I heard the cellphone, then the home phone (twice). He called to say he was coming over to walk the dog before going to work! I said to God "Thank you!" As he walked to his car afterwards, I called out "Big hug". He said "Thanks".
When I got to work (Fri), I sent him an email reminding him that it was exactly 1 year after our other puppy left us. I also: 1) thanked him very nicely for helping out, care and concern, 2) apologized for causing him the inconvenience 3) told him how it was so inconvenient to come over and that he had wake up extra early and then be late to work... 4) I ended with "Big hug, PH".
No email response, BUT at about 4:40pm, he called and offered to walk the dog again.
When I was driving home, he called again, irritated that I wasn't home yet. I either had misheard him or he mis-spoke. But I was LATE. and he said "get here as soon as you can". I told him I wasn't delaying.
After he hung up, I prayed for God's intervention for Him - that my H would be compassionate and decide to be calm..., and prayed for a good interaction.
When I got home and opend the door, he gave me the BIGGEST grin and so did I. The first words out of my mouth were "I am sorry for being late...." Guess what? He told me it was ok and that I got there ASAP and maybe he wasn't clear enough about the time... Hooray! Anyway, he walked her. I thanked him and he asked me if I had gotten over the worst of it. I said that I'll be able to manage by next morning. He left saying "I hope you get better". He was sweet.
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He still continues to call you "Hon" which is a good sign to me.
Thanks for seeing this. Agree. I was starting to wonder if he was pulling away from coming home because of the bills issue. I am not going to let this bad thought sabotage the progress made so far.
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Don't analyze too much.
Appreciate what he did for YOU and be sure to let him know how much you appreciated his help.
Nothing negative from what I see..
You're right. I started appreciating and he came over 2 more times!!!!
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BTW, have you heard of Cold FX? It really does work wonders if you haven't tried it.
Otherwise, have some hot tea, and off to bed.
No have not heard of it. But will keep this in mind for future reference. I am out of the woods now, I think. Just need to take it easy and rest as much as possible.
It's a beautiful day here today. I am so glad to see the sunshine.
