I am so sorry about your sitch, this is heading downhill fast. It may take some time, but she is going to crash BIG TIME. It took me 5 months to get here, you are still in the first inning.
You need to make sure that she NEVER drives drunk with your boys. You may consider discussing this sitch with a police officer. A DWI may be just what she needs to shock her out of this situation.
This is not good.
Focus on yourself... have fun... get out of the house.
We are here for you!
Things really picked up last night... I got home at 2:30.