I am so confused, not sure what hand I am playing

[Snow White]

ok, you were right. Cake-eating. I came home yesterday and a pop-up message came up on my computer from OW - saying sure tea please - I don't have that phone at work today. This is the woman who supposedly wouldn't talk to him since I texted her on Tuesday. Of course again arguments ensued and the excuses came out - only trying to be nice - doing a delivery at her store wanted to know if "anyone" wanted anything. This was a new method of contact, to her cell from the computer with her response to Yahoo Messenger. Really I just give up. This is so hard. Not that I want him to be nasty or tell me he doesn't love me but it is near impossible to walk away when he stands here saying he loves me and wants this but then all this crap keeps coming back up. We just got in a huge fight over the phone because he says he hates going to work because everyday I look for stuff to grill him about and that he is trying and being honest and it doesn't matter because I accuse him of doing things anyways.