My h I think is about one of the only ones on here that figured out on his own that he was in a MLC. I think that is only because his B went through it, left his W for a while then returned too earth after a few months. Heck I even think all but one of h's siblings have been thru it.
Was Social Services able to help you?

You really do have an amazing attitude. It Took me a few months. That may be because H never left, and sometimes I think it makes it all harder. Even though the goal is for them to stay.

JAK

You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez