New to DB

[FloridaTech]

I have not read any of Michelle's books yet. I have read over some of her site and have a list of things to do from 180.

Positives are other than any form of intimacy between us the household is running smooth now. We do all activities as a family (dinner, church, shopping) Other than when it is bed time there is little to no difference. We seldom argue anymore because both of us are willing to listen to each other and not be disrespectful when we talk.

Issues she has in the relationship are/were: verbal and emotional abuse. Sexual addiction (porn), lack of family leadership, not keeping up with the finances.

All of these have been addressed with counseling and are nonexistent anymore except for finances which are starting to get straightened out.

I know that time is needed to show consistant change. We are approaching the 1 year mark of seperation. With her not willing to divorce until she graduates, I have atleast another 1 1/2 to 2 years to stay consistant.

She also posted at MB for several years and knows full well the plans that they suggest. I think that she has read some from here but is not as knowledgeable with Michelle's ideas. I am hoping that using a different approach will allow me to jump start the relationship without her knowing the plan.