I DON'T KNOW

[ediemarie]

Hi Lightswitch! It's been awhile since I posted to you. I'm glad you are still posting.

Just one quick thing:

I feel to save my marrage i need to move out.

How did moving to the basement, or out of your bedroom, help save your M? Did it provide the wake up call your W wanted? Do you think moving out would? I don't think giving your wife all of this space is truly helping to save your M. Try doing something new. What could you do differently now? What you are doing doesn't appear to be working that well (I could be wrong, but it doesn't seem that W is any closer to wanting to work things out).

One common theme I have seen throughout your whole sitch is your wife voicing her insecurity about you wanting her.

she said she wasnt sure if i still wanted her

If she is so done with you, why would she care? I think she wants to be wanted by you. She wants you to fight for her.

Before you decide to move out, consult an L before hand to see what your rights are. It seems to me that you should really be fighting to stay in the house and keep custody of your kids. You're not the one that wants out, she is. In this case doing something different would be staking your claim on what is rightfully yours - your wife, your kids, your home.

Good luck!