Thank you so much girls! I really appreciate your insight. Its funny how when its your own situation you just cant see it from a detached point of view.
T - you are amazing. You have a knack for finding the right resources for everyone. I read things and then forget where they are.... I really appreciate your quote on validating - very timely for me!
Next time I have contact I might try just talking about me and monitor the results. But you guys are right he probably is noticing changes without me doing or saying much. Definitely a 180 for me was not saying that I missed him - I used to say it all the time if we were apart for even a day. As we were breaking up I said that I was going to miss him several times. Anyway I think the dog may have moved on - he shows no signs of missing H! Ha ha!!
I got the job!!! Yay!!! Am quite proud of myself. It means tons more responsibility and I will be on a steep learning curve and working my butt off, but if I can do it it will be really exciting. If I was still with H I probably would not have gone for the job, and there is no way I could have dealt with him and his MLC stuff and the new job if we were together. I feel like I'm in a great space to have the time to invest in this new job, and to really accomplish some good things for me. I do know I'm going to be working very hard for the next 6 months.
Am lurking on all your pages even if I don't get a chance to post. I'm very grateful for your friendship and understanding.
