I'm no expert, but if H has been drinking till 3.30 and is up at 8.00 to drive your D, then he will be still way over the legal driving limit. I agree totally with you. I would even go as far as to say to him 'If you want to go out drinking all ours, that is fine, but I will take D to daycare, as I will not put her at risk'. I know he won't see it like that, but nothing should put children at risk.
It sounds like he is on implode at the moment and his job is suffering. I know this might also sound harsh, but start hiding some of your money away - it is not for drinking, it is to ensure that you and your D have a basic amount of care (food, clothing etc.).
Until he starts to respect you and your D, you have no obligation to respect him. Sorry to rant, but I think he is treating you in a disgusting manner.
