Let me explain. What I mean is....don't worry if it's MLC or not. Determining that may or may not help you understand, but it won't help you determine what to do. It just helps you realize it may take a very long time.
But I DO NOT MEAN that DBing is for you. I don't mean it isn't, but I mean you can FOCUS ON THE EXCEPTIONS. Build the positives until they grow. Build your relationship skills. It's great and very important and a part of DBing to learn how to get a life and improve yourself. But DBing is about building your relationship.
What she says in MLC is that it is possible you will get very frustrated. And you may be trying to hard it's counterproductive. You may need to just focus on yourself. Don't let this relationship consume your every thought, your every action. It doesnt' mean keep the MORE OF THE SAME behaviors.
This has been interpreted by many to mean, there's nothing you can do, just focus on yourself.
I hope that helps.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
