Yes, you can rebuild. Your H didn't waffle for too long it seems, and that's good.
The hurt. Oh it hurts. And from what I hear piecing things back together is very hard and painful, but the end result is an intact, even healthier marriage. You and your H will be on a 'team', working at it.
You don't need to be stronger, you are in the middle of a storm and doing just fine. Time will help the pain. I suggest if you want this marriage (and I think you do), that you insist that you and H see a marriage counselor and do Retrouvaille (sp? check it out on the board, do a search).
Hang in there. By the way, you say you aren't strong, but you gave your H a last resort, you told him to move on. That is amazing.
