Thanks for your input. I know that my needs are probably viewed by him as demands and that he feels I am pressuring him to do things he isn't ready to do. Maybe by me backing off, he will eventually feel it is okay to make some of those changes b/c then they will be "his" idea instead of him reacting to my "demands"? I hope you know what I mean by that. This whole situation sucks, I was so glad last month when he said he wanted to "work on things". I guess we just had different ideas of what "working on things" looks like.
I hope both of our spouses miss us enough to get off their butts and try harder. Don't know how DB that is, but it is how I feel!
