I have done only one hour of flight training, but it was truly inspiring. Really nifty. I love this idea of yours!
What about stuff you can do around the house, so you are not watching the clock? Ever want to learn to paint? Draw or sketch? What about playing a musical instrument? Do you see yourself learning to play the guitar? That could be cool. Definitely something I want to do when I get my own place. Also - what about reading? Ever have the goal to read the classics? Like Ulysses or Milton or Plato's Republic, Dostoyevsky or ... Churchill's History of the Second World War? What about learning to play chess? play with a buddy or you can get cheap chess computers that are pretty good. What about restoring an old car? woodworking?
Some ideas anyway.
ps: Bomb, bonnet is the british word for "hood of the car". "Size of the bonnet" I guess means "coolness of the car." Like an Aston Martin has a really long hood, while a Ford Fiesta has a short one.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
I read a lot every day but always wanted to pick up my art skills again. Drawing and painting were great classes I took in college (BSBA). I am going to go for the flight training. You talked me into it. Well a zanax could do the trick too.
Just a little MLC behavior info for what it's worth:
MLCers will typically make new friends that don't know you, the family, or the marital history. They feed their new "friends" their warped story of the marriage. Of course, the new friends will be sympathetic to the MLCers perspective since they really don't know any better.
The MLCer will be very protective of their new friends and will not want you or anyone else who might offer a different perspective to have contact with her friends. The last thing she wants is for her new friends to see that you're really a nice guy...not the monster she's been describing. It's just another dimension of the weirdness. Quite often, the new friends will be people you would never guess your spouse would associate with. And, quite often, they're people who are divorced, divorcing, single, or have troubled relationships.
A few months ago my wife started going out with some new friends whom I'd never met. My innocent requests to meet her new friends was met with icy refusals. I was really perplexed about this until I figured out what was going on.
Flying is fun. I have around 2400 hours of time in the B-52 and B-1B. I'm also a private pilot with around 300 hours in various little aerospace vehicles.
Me: 51 W: 50 M 24 yrs EA: since Apr 06 S22, S26, S28 ILYBNILWY:Nov 07
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." Tyler Durden
That description of friends is dead on the money. Mine did the exact same thing.
Split personality (alien vs. spouse) comment by WAW: "There's a lot of dysfunction in the group I run around with".....doh!
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
There were two Men who were best friends at one time. One of the Men started having an affair with his best friend's W. Shortly after the affair was discovered, both couples divorced. The one having the affair with his friend's wife moved in with her shortly after their D. The other Man befriended his ex-best friends LBW and moved in with her just recently. Basically, they swapped partners. My stbx started a friendship with the couple that were originally cheating on their partners.
I'm sure stbx would feel comfortable talking about her new OM in their presence. Of course she can't introduce him in person yet, because he's still in prison for 2 ND degree murder, but I'm sure they would fit right in to that social circle.
Whew! Talk about dysfunctional. My imagination isn't even capable of making up a scenario like this.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
You are dead on: "quite often, they're people who are divorced, divorcing, single, or have troubled relationships".
I was upset last night because i had to come running home from my GAL because my S12 would have been home alone at 11PM after he was out with some of his Lax friends/parents for pizza. I got home just before him. She texted me to say are you home and is S12 home yet. I texted back to ask her to call me. She said she could not because she was dancing with her girl friend (fat ugly India Single Girl). 15 minutes later she called so drunk she could hardly speak. I asked her if she was ok and she said/ sleered FIIINNNEEEE! At that piont I back slide and asked her where she was because I was worried and there was black ice everywhere and i saw two cars off the road on my way home. She said very evasively I am in WC on Passiac Ave. I said where? and she reluctantly named the place.
Do you think she doesn't want to tell me where she is because she doesn't want me to come there and meet other dysfunsional friends or do you think the possible OM was there or she was just trying to push my buttons. BTW: this is the second time she came home within minutes after I asked her where she was because i was so worried about her. I think she either was not where she said she was or didn't want me to show up. I know, I know, stop worring about her. Well sorry I can't!
A little bummed this morn and worried about my wife's drinking. My S12 even mentioned something about it. When she came home i acted like I was a sleep because when she gets drunk she gets depressed and wants to fight (that's why I moved out of the bed room) so she found that my s12 was sleeping in my bed after after we watched tv he fell asleep. She had a fit for some odd reason. Never has this happened before but she did get real made one day last week if you will recall when my son came to sit next to me in chair to watch TV. I wonder what that is all about.
I am hurting a little this morning but I am going to button my lip, smile and act as if life was never better. No questions asked.
She just got up and looks like Sh**. Very interested in where I was last night and all the detials, I was very evasive and did not ask one question about her. She is on the phone already.
You are dead on: "quite often, they're people who are divorced, divorcing, single, or have troubled relationships".
An old friend called his local group whom his W hung out with The Society of Separated Women, or SSW for short. We concluded that this is an international society with branches everywhere. We also concluded that most chapters, even thou they had Women in their official name, welcomed all relationship dysfunctional people, regardless of gender, race, creed, or sexual orientation (which can make for some very interesting developments for addle-brained, alien abducted WAS's who aren't sure they should be married, or, well, never mind for now...).
Anyway, the SSW chapters are very non-denominational and ecumenical. In my W's chapter, most members were separated or divorced women, but the the OM was a member and a few others who were married then but are now divorced. The membership is constantly in flux and ever changing. It seems that one of their main focuses is to increase their membership by recruiting newly disillusioned married people. They offer much support and encouragement to end the pain and just move on. Curiously, 3 of primary ring-leaders back then in the local chapter here are now married, engaged, or in long-term live-in relationships, and out of the active membership. Funny, that...
That's bueatiful and so true it is unreal. I feel sick today over this. I thought things were going so well. Some times I love her so much and other I want to spit when i see her. What is going on in my head? I can't wait to see the Pysc Monday. I know he is going to tell me to pack up and get out but he also told me never to leave the house and kids w/ my wako MLC WAW. He and all others said I have an excellent chance of getting the kids. One lawyer told me it would be a 30K retainer if I wanted to go that route. I would love to save my marrage and lots of $$$$$. I need to get my wife healthy. Thoughts?
