I'm glad you saw some baby steps from H the other day. Now is the time for patience. It can be a long, long road. Patience.
Originally Posted By: Treese
yep, I've gone from 10, 7, to 5, and back to 23 years of unhappiness....
In case it needs repeating, THEY ALL SAY THIS. I am right now accused of 22 straight years of abuse! Twenty two years of it, she says! She was somehow blinded by it for the first 21 years. Maybe it was all the mind-control tricks I played on her!
It ain't you, Treese. It's him. It's not you. Don't believe one bit of it.
The other night I took my kids to watch a movie, The Spiderwick Chronicles. It was pretty good. There's a high-tension scene towards the end where the little boy stabs someone. It's a surprise because the person looks like a friend, but is not. It was really the beasty, in disguise. The boy knew somehow.
That's how we ought to think about these MLCers. When they say it is 23 years of bad - It's the beasty talking. You must know that. You must be certain of it.
Can I tell you something? - I had my kids the other day and they were spontaneously recalling fond memories of the old days. Spontaneously I tell you. These kids are 9,11,12 years old. They remember it as fun, adventurous, together, joyous, funny, silly, playful, enjoyable. They remember it! This is what keeps me bouyed in the dark hours. When I hear the kids' words, I know the truth. I know that when W says she endured 22 years of torture and abuse, it is the beasty. My kids don't see it that way. I don't see it that way. My wife is possessed by an alien. I'm not believing her BS.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
