Regarding the 1 yr waiting period there doesn't have to be any papers filed. Just live apart for 1 yr and file the papers after 1 yr and you're divorced. If I wanted to I could be divorced in a couple of weeks because of the A. But, I of course don't want that.
Regarding spousal support (alimony) there are 3 things that they use to determine if I'd get any and 2 of these 3 were on my side except proof of need. Just depends on the judge.
L advised me to take pics of everything. H is already taking his tools from the house and may not return them so there's no way to determine what he had. L advised me to squirrel away money if I can. If I can, get someone to come and appraise our stuff because what H wants and what I get will probably not be of equal value and if it's appraised I'd have documentation of their value to present in court. L said to be smart and prepare for battle but first and foremost take care of myself. H doesn't have to do anything for the boys after they are 18. I just worry about them not having medical insurance because I don't have any benefits.
I explained that I didn't want a D and L said to just wait it out as long as I can. So, on Nov. 24, 2008, H can file and I will be D. This sucks.
I did cancel H's credit card that the account is in my name. H has a credit card in his name but he would never get a card for me. I also took all the money from the savings accounts today. H noticed both of these things and said we shouldn't be doing this and we shouldn't be playing these games. I asked him about the change in his deposit and he said he meant to tell me about it and that was why he was calling and that it wasn't supposed to happen for 2 weeks. L said to keep the money because I'll need it.
