BobbiJo, First of all I'm glad you are back on your feet or at least the good one. I was really starting to worry. I'm also glad your son finally beat that bug.
The last thing I wanted was to S from my H. I realized though that it was necessary. H wasn't willing to work on the R and we were both misserable. H was around as little as possible. Actually since the S there are some days that he spends more time at the house than before the S. If your H really isn't willing to work on the R (I know he is going to MC but it doesn't sound like he is doing anything as a result) what is the purpose of having him around?
I think it is great that your H will be getting indvidual C. I realized long ago that until H and I both change ourselves, we can't fix the R. I am finally seeing changes in H for the better. I am still hopeful that someday he will be willing to work on the R. I love the list of things you need from your H or an H. I am going to do one this weekend. I told my C yesterday if H does decide he wants to come back, there will have to be a lot of changes and MC.
As for your attitude/personality. I would go with the cheerful one. Would you want to be w/ a crabby person? Remember, you want to seem attractive to your H.
I was really starting to worry. I'm also glad your son finally beat that bug.
