I agree...say nothing...just start going about your business and for goodness sakes don't talk to H about OW or R's...he is a mess and when you two talk it just messes you up too...drama...
You have told him your boundries but then you don't stand up for yourself...you really need to show him that you respect yourself...you tell him he won't be happy until he is happy with himself well...you won't get respect until you respect yourself...see how all this stuff works???
You H might do well with counseling...if it is truly the right time and he is ready to accept it...if he is still fighting change then he might reject it...in which case it might be harder to get him to revisit when he is ready...
All I know is you have gotten stronger but you seem to be slipping back to the same place with H...he wants you to text or call first because then he doesn't have to be responsible...and he will feel like you want him...he goes to OW if she leaves him alone because he wants to feel wanted...he has a real immature way of dealing with things...but he can grow up...it takes time and you leaving him be...he will flounder...he may even fall flat like my H did...sometimes that is the best thing for them and it is best if you aren't watching because the first thing you want to do is catch him...and you can't...he needs this...let him go!
