Cat, I have to super agree with LN: "You're a compassionate person, but you can only help them by detaching and letting them solve their problems themselves"
The only thing that kept going through my head when reading your post is that you have to start with the assumption that anything H tells you is false...until he appears to be getting things together (in months...not days or weeks). It's fine to be compassionate (I'm totally the same), but it's also vital that you don't get sucked into the drama any more.
I so wish we lived close, I would come kidnap you and take you far away from this circus! (At least for a weekend )
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