I'm going to focus on other goals for ME part 3!!!

[brandnewday]

Each and every time he opens up to you or shares things with you consider it a baby step, but do not consider it soemthing you are entitled to.

Maybe he is testing the waters to see how you will react?

Maybe he wants to see if you want to "take over" or if you will just sit in the wings and let him make his own choices.

[Maya44]

Okay, thanks. I understand.

[Maya44]

I do appreciate the other points of view for sure. Helps me think with a different cap on.

[Virtually_Handsome]

(((((dar)))))
I read your thread every day! I post if I think you need something, you have been sounding generally better. You won't be alone!

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Dar,

I'm on jury duty for the next...17 or so days.
I have a limited ammount of time at work, since I now have to actually fit a whole day of work into 2 hours...well 4-8 hours of work depending on the day into 2 hours.

You are one of the people I check up on.

You're seem to be doing well.
Don't cycle back into old cheeseless tunnels, don't fall back into old Dar, but don't tell me you won't. Show me.

[glamgirl]

They want you to be a friend from a distance.

They want to be left alone.

They want to know you are available IF they want to talk to you.

They do not want to hear about your problems.

They do not want to know that you love them.

They do not want to hear that you miss them.

Keep working on you.

Leave him alone.

Dar you and I have been at this about the same amount of time. Thanks BND this is perfect advice. I needed that today.

[cat03]

sorry! minihijack

AmyC, wherever you are, need your info about separation, I might be heading that way soon, pretty please you are close by where I live

[Maya44]

glamgirl,

We have been at this close to the same time line, although I'm not a good DBer at all.
How are you doing? Have you gotten this down pat?
It's hard huh?

[Maya44]

The weekend was okay anyway. I just don't like to see H really. It upsets me every time he walks out the door. He said that we'll be talking about all of this on Wed after the meeting at school (I believe this is the 4th time this school meeting has been rescheduled!). I still made sure I had make up on and looked pretty good both when he picked up D and dropped her off. I just don't think I can handle rejection at this meeting. He did say again that he's still considering moving back with his parents since he's not happy in the sitch he's in now. BUT, does that mean he is done and there's no chance of returning home soon? Or does that just mean he's still not ready? I think I'm over-analyzing this too much and upsetting myself.

[AliSuddenly]

I think there seems to be little change in the way H is with your Dar, its more of the same, but...it isnt a negative that hes thinking of moving home with his parents..at least hes not making a commitment to go rent somewhere, so hes sort of still in limbo. If it were me, and I left someone, and I were sure I had done the right thing, I would go rent myself a nice home and move into it, job done. But thats me. We cant speculate as to why he hasnt done that, but at least he is still speaking to you.

So what is it he wants to talk to you about on Wednesday?

Ali
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Me: 36
H: 34
LT: 9 years
ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07
Own apartment: 26 Jan 08
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