Battlefield of the mind..part 2

[cat03]

I was going to name this thread "all hell broke loose Part 2" but I dont' want that to be the theme of the entire thread.

SO SO much has happened since I last posted, I'll try to be brief. H was still seing and going out w/ow, went out for vday w/her like i suspected. After my call ow hound H to do xyz or else, wouldn't let up, she kept harrasing him and told her they'd meet with the divorce lawyer yesterday (she actually did believe what i said. H bombarded me w/texts about how I made things worse by telling her stuff that he came clean about. That he was trying to let her go (yeah, right) and that now she was on his case. That he had finally picked up all his stuff from her house while she was away, left keys and all and that she was very very angry that he did this behind her.
...the icing on the cake: ow comes to my house.
I did what i promised myself i'd do, I shut the door and told her I was calling the police if she didnt' leave inmediatly. She left but left an envelope at my door. I gave it a quick look, it was what I suspected, old love letters, cards, etc, I'm no masochist so I burnt it without reading them.
OW calls me, histerically crying, saying how sorry she was that she didnt' listen to me, that I was right, that he was playing her & that she felt used and horrible. Hell froze: I consoled her. TOld her H isnt' in his right mind, that he is a pathological liar. She keeps crying hard and asking why he did this to her, in between she'd tell me some details (bad stuff he said about me, stuff they did together and others)
I knew better than to believe everything she said of course, I just told her I was sorry she was hurting (she really was having a breakdown) She talked about how I should drop him, etc etc.

When she told me about vday I didn't believe her, I thought I saw a pict of where they went on the enveloped I burnt, I went to see the remains and I found it, dated last week (they actually had a fall-out and celebrated V saturday). Ow shocked & angry that H just took his stuff and left & that she figured out there was no lawyer (he promised they go the office yesterday but came up w/an excuse)

OK this is getting long. Talked to H that night, he told me his side, first denied what she'd said, said somethings in between, refused to answer others, we argued, convo went south fasted, his lame excuse for seeing her "we were separated", I called on that "agreement" of no dating, he shut up. LOng story short more stuff was said between her and him this am, she wanted money to feel better, she threatened suicide several times, it was ugly.
H called me this am admitting he listened to no one and made things 1000x worse & had no idea what to do, we come up with some stuff, but after he hanged up ow tells him she is going to his mom's even if he istn' there (I didn't knwo taht after the meeting was over). The night before she went looking for him as his job, went to his friends' home where she thought he lived to return stuff he gave her and had a coronary when she learned he didnt' live there. Friend thought she was totally nuts.

THey met this am at his mom's (she was horrified, mom, wasn't expecting her there) and ow again cryies histerically, returns all the stuff he ever gave her and tells him she is done w/him, that she wont' go after him anymore, that she loves me and would've done anything for him (H told me that part 2x because he things that means she isnt' going to do any more harm)

H now says he doesn't have her influence presuring him and that it is all up to him now.
So for a bit I was sucked right back into H's personal hell, I'm trying to get myself out, for a bit he involved me in decision of how to rid of ow and got me in the involved again.
I was making assumptions again that he was only remembering the "I'd do anythign for you" part from ow and forgetting all shed' done, but I figure that is ON HIM NOW, I must step away, I was going to txt him but no, even if he hasnt' learn all he should've, I must not get involved. Throught the whole thing when he felt cornered he'd lie, told her he'd give her $ and seconds later realized he shouldn't have, I mean, he had no will whatsoever. He has a long way to go to put himself together again.

Ow called me a 2nd time that night because she wanted to talk to someone, I suspect she is going to call me again, I don't want to talk to her again, I pity her but she's just going to have to find someone else to talk to and talked her down.

We are still going to C on wednesday. And life goes on.