I had wanted to invite him back if we separated if he was unhappy with the OW, thinking if they broke up at some point I would allow him to move back in, and I would tell him that he was welcome to move back in if he wanted to if it didn't work out with OW. Now, after how things have gone today, I think I will try to be friendly and mildly DB which we haven't been very friendly to each other today. H insists the affair has not been destructive to our marriage, which I do not believe and we have been arguing over that today. I am not planning on offering H any invitations to move back in the future right now, puppy, so I guess you will be happy to hear that. I don't think H wants to hear that anyway, so it would be falling on deaf ears anyway! Karen43
