CONTACTING OW/OW'S HUSBAND

[kikidee]

It's a fabulous mantra and makes perfect sense. This is what I don't know ... If he chooses not to be honest and continues with OW in his fantasy world and I am tempted to shake up his reality a bit by contacting OW's H, will it bring me closer to my goal, which is to get some M repairing happening? I don't know if it will or not. I want to believe that it would give him less hope in an unrealistic relationship (with OW, in soooo many ways) and give him a reason to consider staying and giving our M a real chance.

Zebra, I appreciate your input so much and am hopeful that our M can take a turn for the better, at any pace, as yours has. You have done a great job and you must have the patience of Job!