LJ--um,um,um -- if that was close to verbatim, he's still hooked!! Howww can you be so cool!!!!!You know he has to be thinking about you all the way back to her. Sorry to say, but no way OW will let him split with new baby - he is trippin. Put yourself in her shoes - this is a problem. But like most men he will probably be content to visit regularly with the child as long as you all live close by. You sound as if you would be willing to deal with, or have dealt with, the child in his life and if you get back together, in your life. This is real hard as the child becomes a constant reminder of the affair -- but I do know people who have done it successfully. Your strategy seems to be working well and I appreciate the advice, and will put the joy and laughter back in my voice, even if it kills me. Your response almost brought me to tears - it was so kind; I thank you.
Saw today; business; he's annoyed and embarrassed to be sleeping on his mom's couch, mumbled about it being uncomfortable. This may be a prelude to discussing his return. Only on my terms tho. It's been 1 week. When I left with kids it was for 1 month before he asked me to return. I know I have to stick to my guns since this is the 2nd time; it's got to hurt/inconvenience/let him yearn for what he is missing out on etc. before I relinquish - right? And this time I will insist he(or we) start counseling before agreeing to a return. My heart and health cannot go through this again. Planning a busy weekend with kids, & minimal interaction with H - let him see us laughing out the door as we dash from activity to activity.
