CONTACTING OW/OW'S HUSBAND

[kikidee]

You were right in what I meant when I used the word REACT. I know that I do react and that my emotions will take over when I am around my H. I am trying very hard to not do that. The one thing that is positive about my "reactions" is that my H should really have no thoughts that what I am trying to do, what I say, how I act is anything but honest. I know that he still questions my intentions but how he can doubt my honesty, is completely beyond me. I am working until the time I see him tomorrow. I am worried that I won't be able to find my calmness. I will try my hardest to take your advice and "Listen, Consider and Respond". I know that it will be difficult but I just have to take myself back to that rational, calm place in my head and I'm hoping that things work out. I just hope that the threat that I know I will want to utter if he decides to continue to not be honest about the OW is well placed. I just don't know where to place it....in the conversation or in the back of my mind.

Until the, I will try to expect nothing, including the truth. If he decides to step up and be courageous - it will be a pleasant surprise, but I know that considering the "new him", which does not seem to include honesty, it's not likely to happen. Is it a bad thing that I have OW's home number in my pocket?