The key here...is that your W is seeking help...you post that she is in rehab. For me...for anyone...that is KEY. It says the most important thing of all...the your W RECOGNIZES that there is a problem. Hopefully, she will continue the help she gets after finishing.

I think when the M issues are beyond WAW and fall into true 'psychological' issues, the mainstay for reconciliation predominantly is the spouse's ability to try and help themselves, and, then, the LBS's ability to hold on and forgive.

Looks like you have the key elements here. As long as you are 'OK'.....hang in.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;