You can't legislate feelings -- none of us can -- they're like fears, in that you can't just "will" yourself to get over them.
I think the distinction that we're trying to make is in how you ACT on those feelings. Why, even before this latest incident, you would invite him back so readily, without preconditions, is part of your problem, just from reading your sitch.
If I misunderstand, and you were just saying you were THINKING that, but would never SAY that to him . . . or if you WOULD have some serious preconditions, then my apologies. I'm new here.
