Getting stronger everyday!

[kaydeekay]

Kissak,

I've been keeping up with your sitch but haven't posted to you in awhile.

Your H sounds exactly like mine when he was with OW1. I see myself 3 years ago in you. I did some of the same things you are doing hoping it would bring him back. Nothing you can say or do will bring him back to you.

I know you've been told this a hundred times but you need to go dark, drop the rope, and not allow him to pull you into his drama. That's his drama...not yours.

Once you stop thinking about what H and OW are doing you will feel awhole lot better. I know you don't want to hear this but based on your H's pattern with OW they will get back together. As my H did with his OW1. After a year of going back and forth between me and OW1, my H eventually got tired of all the BS and ended things with her. My H is now on OW4 (at least that's the nubmer I know, could have been others).

I am no longer standing for my marriage. Even though I have fallen out of love with my H I do love him as a person. He was a major part of my life. I have moved on and am dating a wonderful man. H will be filing D papers in the next few weeks. He has mentioned that he is going to marry OW4. I congratulated him and told him I was happy for him. Our relationship now is good, like friends. He will call me and tell me jokes to make me laugh like he used to. I rather be his friend than his bitter ex-wife.

In your sitch I hope your H works on his issues...my never did and probably never will. I just hope that your H will not do what mine has done and go from one woman to another. Your H needs to see that you can't always be waiting in the background for him. Let him go. I know it's hard.

Take care,
kdk