OW is married with kids also. But I am assuming she is going to be getting divorced too. Today was bad. H told me this morning that he had made arrangements several weeks ago (without telling me) to move out in April (one day before my play starts isn't he thoughful!) but b/c of our argument yesterday (when I found out he lied about who the OW was for past 3 months a former friend I had helped out several times) will now be moving out I guess beg. of March. which actually is probably better for me timing wise, a month before the play rather than a day. He called me pathetic I guess for having feelings still for him or not wanting a divorce when he is in love with OW. He was yelling at me and I asked him to stop and he said I am in control now and I said fine, keep yelling, and just walked out of the room, and he was left in the room with my D8, so I assume at some point he hopefully stopped yelling around the poor child.
I assume he will be living with the OW b/c that is the only way he can afford it, and that is what he had mentioned before that he wanted to live with her. He told the kids he will come visit, probably on the weekends.
I am feeling really mixed up and depressed. I have been depressed in bed and crying, but D8 said this morning how Dad isn't nice to me and both kids seem fine about him leaving, so in some ways I will be relieved b/c he is kind of nasty to me sometimes. I haven't felt like begging and pleading with him to stay or even mentioning how he can come back if he wants, which I had thought I would tell him but now I don't think so. But still I've been crying all day too, so I'm basically a big mess today. Karen43
