Cake-eating has nothing to do with "time." If her wayward husband is allowed to both enjoy the needs-meeting of the OW, and also the care and flirtations (and more) of his wife, then he is "cake-eating," pure and simple.
Neecy asked if we thought she was allowing him to "cake-eat." In my opinion, it's cut and dry that she is. Now, as to what to DO about it, there are wildly differing views and approaches, for sure.
