Good news and a really good night. I agree with the don't push thing. Send her a very simple card in the mail, no flowers or anything. Simply tell her she looked beautiful and you enjoyed the evening. What woman doesn't want a little compliment and a little romance? No declarations of love, hope for the future or anything along that line. I think back to the little notes I would send my husband when I was dating and that's what I would do. I didn't want to talk about the future or push anything, I just wanted to validate what we felt/did on a certain day and let him know that I cared.
And I think klm's quote"Just as she was probably months ahead of you on the idea of D, you are probably months ahead of her on the idea of reconciling" is spot-on. Let her catch up to you.
And, congrats!
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
