Fish, I have never posted to you but I have followed your story. First I want to say CONGRATULATIONS!
I am not sure your wife wants to be pursued. She told you that she wanted to move slow. She told you not to bombard her with texts or phone calls. Don't smother her. Let her miss you when you are not with her. Don't be overbearing. Don't try to control the situation. Your W knows what you want. It took you time to adjust to the idea of getting a D...give her time to adjust to the idea of reconciliation. Just as she was probably months ahead of you on the idea of D, you are probably months ahead of her on the idea of reconciling.
I have found that patience is the hardest part of all this. However, it is a necessity. Again, let her miss you.
