H bought S5 a phone over a month ago. About a year back when he suggested it, I said no, but then I didn't mind when he got it because it meant that I wouldn't have to talk to him at all unnecessarily. When I asked about it, H made a comment about how it was on his account. He never mentioned it was a number that belonged to H that he's since stopped using.
Anyway, S5 received a message today:
Hi H, if you're going to (club) tonight, can you give me the $ you owe me for (old restaurant) (ogre) and blah blah blah. A*hole friend (who we all told him not to hire, but he did anyway, and later fired)
S5 is really good at reading and saw that it was a message for his dad. I think he read it - or at least tried - then later gave it to me to read. I acted nonchalant about it, trying to make it no big deal so S5 wouldn't make a big deal out of it (I was pissed though, that S5 was accidentally getting a message like that, esp. with ogre's name in it). S5 calls H to tell him he got a message for him. I can tell H is asking S5 what it says and keeps asking. I finally took the phone from S and kinda brusquely told H I'll forward him the message and not to ask S5 about the message again. H said ok and I hung up. I called back a second later and told him that S5 won't be using that number anymore. H said ok (probably because ogre was with him and he couldn't talk to me).
The reason H got S5 the phone in the first place was so they could talk to each other. H has initiated a call to him once only, and that was to tell him he was on his way to pick him up on a Saturday. I talked to S5 and said that there's no need for him to have a phone. Luckily, he was fine with the idea, so I'll be taking the phone away until he's older/needs it.
I'm pissed for a number of reasons about this incident - H is still clubbing, mentioning the restaurant H hid from me and went into debt for ogre, he was supporting ogre and her friends, he still owes people money - a*hole friend hit on possibly every sore topic reminding me of H's bad choices.
Then on the other hand I don't really care. I just wish that it hadn't involved my S5. I'm even annoyed at having had to speak to H today the way I did. I can take a lot of crap that comes my way, but not if it goes anywhere near my kids. That's where I have to draw the line.
I'll see H briefly tomorrow at MIL's. I'm sure the phone issue will come up - he'll probably offer to get S5 a new number.
I feel so finished with this, then I read about steelers' H and it gives me hope - and then that recent article posted by bombardier that validates everything I think my H is going through. And then sometimes I think, my H is just a complete idiot who threw it all away for a cheap piece of @ss that could've been bought by anyone else, but is so ugly that noone else even wanted her. But that's the reality of the situation if you take away all the things 'I think' are going on - my H left me for a bar hostess.
Strangely, despite all that's happened, I can still envision a happy ending for us eventually. It's upsetting that H can't do the same.
