Helloooo...Smoother Ride....Where Are You?? - Pt.2

[Rob1231]

Hi Sue, A few observations.

First, always, always, ALWAYS come here to vent when you need to. Get it out of your system - we're happy to lend you a sympathetic ear.

I took my ring off for the first time today. I'm still not sure if that's what I want, but I'm angry today. ... He obviously has no committment to me and I feel that my ring was a sign of that.

Instead of letting your wearing your ring be about him, please think of it as being about you. Let it represent your own commitment (or lack thereof) - not his. Control your own actions, and let go of his.

Angry that H has started to pull this crap again.

OK, this one threw me a little. It reads like you had convinced yourself he was actually through with this crap. I don't mean to be hurtful, but... please don't mistake a baby step on his part for something bigger. Baby steps are good, and to be appreciated - but that's all. I'm afraid your H has a long, loooong ways to go before he's through with this crap. I think you'll do better in your sitch to expect the worst, and be pleasantly surprised when things go better, than vice versa.

((((((Hugs))))))