FLTC: FROM IRAQ

[Dom R]

I get the "present" of the "Present", but when I don't project into the future and plan for what I BELIEVE will be the inevitable, it comes back to eat me alive. For me, it’s “detachment survival skill”, imagining myself being divorced and living in an apartment somewhere, and what it will be like not being with my kids every day.

I know the importance of being prepared. it IS important to be prepared for all possibilities.

Remember why michelle wrote about "act as if" , though.
If you presume that the worst possible scenario with your wife WILL happen... then it WILL be inevitable... not because it has to be, but because that's all you allow for.

It may happen that way. I think it's certainly a good idea to be prepared for it, if it happens.
Just keep your mind open to other possibilities as well, yah?

Not in the "Things are going to go kersplat, but if 'a miracle' happens, then maybe..." way.

But in the sense of "Things may blow up. They may not. I'm going to be prepared if they do. But UNTIL they do, I'm going to 'act as if' there is a chance that they dont. and work for something better".

hang in there.
It's not about killing yourself with false hope. It's about just laying groundwork for the possibility of something else happening.