Yes and no. We have both been in individual counseling (with the same counselor - sounds odd but it was working), and then we get together for joint sessions from time to time. I think our counselor and we underestimated how "ready" we were/are to scale back the joint sessions.
I don't know what is helping or what is hurting anymore. I feel so tongue-tied around my H, because I feel like I know what he's going to say, so what's the point? And that's not a good attitude, I know. I have to figure out why I am that way with him. I speak my mind to everyone else, I think it's just that my confidence is so shot down from the last year we've had. It really stinks. I feel like anyday the other shoe is going to drop and we'll be right back where we were a year ago. I hate it.
I'm tired of feeling like the bad guy in all this, the one who didn't make things work. It takes two to make or break a maarriage, right?
