I would suggest you talk to your L about this one. If you are having bills addressed to H but you are paying for them then that doesn't seem quite right. Although it may take a bit of changing you are going to have to do it in the end and to be honest now is as good a time as ever. You will need your H permission to change the name on the account but it shouldn't stop the service. I know I swapped our BT account over and other utility bills (that won't take joint names!) and it didn't affect the service at all. Another little step in letting go and taking control. This week has been hell here with my eldest D taken ill Mon night, hospital wed am, appendix out wed night, younger D birthday yesterday and eldest D home from hospital today (and it's half term!!). I feel totally wiped out! Hang on in there Ali you are doing great.
