Why, hello to you too tpaschal;

My H, same thing...he wasn't unhappy until she entered the picture..she is a friend of ours from 20 years ago who has kept in contact with him..it went from one meeting to another and you know where it went from there...I had a hysterectomy right before all this started...they say sometimes that has a lot to do with it..we had 5 surgeries that year between the two of us..


I told H that she is probably lying to him also...of course he's "in love" right now so whatever I say is crap...OW got divorced in December so I'm sure she is filling his head with all the stuff they want to hear and how bad of a person I am and how unhappy he is...yep, I've gone from 10, 7, to 5, and back to 23 years of unhappiness....even his mom who doesn't know about OW says this is crap...that it just has to be something in the past year and a half...yep, she's right the OW....

I don't even ask for hugs now, sometimes though I think maybe he would like to give me one but doesn't know how to go about it or he thinks that I will think that there's a chance between us if he does..he used to say if he smiled at me that I think we are okay...I so didn't think that...he's in another world all together, a changed man, and she is controlling his life...his children have even taked a back burner..how sad is that..
He was my best friend, I told him everything, now he is gone..I don't tell him anything about the kids, he can ask, but since he hasn't called me in 3 weeks it's kind of hard to talk to him..I will not give in, not now...I've come to far...even though it's been such a short time...I have talked to him every day for 29 years and I went cold turkey..a 180..

I do get nervous when he comes to the house, why, who knows, am I afraid I will screw up, probably, but after the first couple of minutes and I can see his mood, then I can relax...

Do you have children? How long has your H been gone?

I'm hoping he sees all this,and I have changed, learned, I am a new person, really....and I like it...

Only time and God will know what is going to happen...but I do hope he comes home..He is the love of my life, I hope he finds his way out...

Treese

Last edited by Treese; 02/22/08 12:22 PM.
Treese

H 49
M 45
D 23, D17, S12
M 25 T 31
01/07 OW H at my door w/proof
Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07
Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass,
Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9
11/08 pos.paternity