Don't know about being a great guy, but I'm trying to not be the guy who was detached from his wife and kids so much that it got away from him. That guy is the one who has changed into someone who connects with his kids and takes care of the household. He even tries to show a lot more friendship and interest in W's life, despite the fact that W is leaving.
Its very strange to think logically about how I can detach from the drama but stay attached as a friend, never thought I could manage. Of course there are times when I fail, get sucked in to the drama, but I haven't let it last long enough to cause the panic attacks etc that it used to.
And yes, I think I will come out a "winner", I get to actually be part of my children's lives rather than just an observer. There will be a lot of trauma for them and myself over the coming months (and years?) so its good to know that they can rely on their dad.
Brad
Me: 35 W: 34 S8 & S5 M: 11 IDLY: 08/2007
"Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose" - Janis Joplin, Me and Bobby McGee
"Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about dancing in the rain!"
