John, I tend to feel that the OM is not always just a symptom. I believe that the lure of the OM is the trigger that finally causes all the built up pressure in the spouse to then become a full blown WAS.
I too noticed that my WAW lost a lot of her short term memory in regards to schedules. I think their minds are abducted by aliens and are living on another planet where such a thing as responsibility does not exist.
Dont let your immediate frustrations rule your decision making process. Take your time before rolling those dice and make sure that you use some weighted dice to work in your favor.
