I think you need to be strong and ask him about his music now and then. Not every time you talk to him, but occassionally. My DB coach told me to find some neutral things to talk about (the upcoming elections or something in the news) and ask what he thinks about that. The whole being my H's friend has been what I have been trying to do lately.

Sara

Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08