How do you talk to the in-laws?

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I talk to ILs regularly, to tell them about D2, and I send them pictures. I even went to visit them w/o H. Sent a note saying that I am so happy that the grandparents came to see D2....

I discussed H some w/MIL at first; I do not any more. I think H's contact w/them is somewhat better and he is going to see them (not sure if this is with or without OW--I am assuming with). They did allow OW into their home and I believe have taken her to dinner.

I assume that he may be wheedling on them for money for D. However, I want D2 to have a positive R w/them and so I simply do not discuss H or MLC.

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Oh--and I would NOT get involved w/FIL and H. If he comes on a plane to see H, let it be. It is not your concern.