Well H and I had our first therapy session for S8 today and it went fairly well. She spoke to S8 first alone then to H and I alone and we concentrated on S8 but there were questions from her about US and WHAT happened really. I of course informed her that I was caught totally off guard by H walking out and that whatever problems we had in our M like the financial and the stale feeling because we got so wrapped up in parenting and working that we forgot to take care of each other were fixable but that H simply gave up without trying and has caused major havoc in the lives of 3 people. So yes, a little off the DB train but it still went well. S8 and I are going back next week so she can work on him some more and help him through his trust issues with daddy.
H then came over since it is Thurs. and that is one of his times to come over and we really seem to get along quite well, like really good friends when he is around. He seems to be softening a bit here and there. Isn't ready to come home though. He is still convinced that this new life of his is better than what he gave up. I know though that living with mommy and daddy or slumming off friends couches will get old and the partying lifestyle he thinks he missed in his 20's will also get old. I just hope he realizes he has a home with us regardless of what house the kids and I will be living in.
It took everything in my power not to ask for a hug tonight. He tends to bolt out quickly as if to avoid any possibility of being caught in that situation.
How was you day Bryan?
Both 35 T 19/M 15 years S8/D5 It's over bomb/ILYBNILWY 12-22-07
